I am a good person

An insane thing just happened to me on the tube home from school today. I got on a carriage and noticed a transvestite/transgendered person standing near the door. Sitting just on the other side of the plexiglass divider, literally inches away, was a group of teenagers falling about the place. Specifically there was a girl shrieking with laughter, looking at the person (who, as I mentioned, was standing about 3 inches away) and then shrieking again, saying, "Ohmigod, ohmigod, ohmigod!" Technically, her friends were more laughing at her but they were still carrying on and making a scene that was obviously focused on this person. I was listening to my iPod, so it took me a couple of seconds to clock what was going on. When I did, I turned off my Fresh Air podcast, went over to the girl and very calmly and non-confrontationally said, "Are you okay? Because you're making a lot of noise. Do you have a problem or something?" She just sort of sputtered a bit, obviously surprised and embarassed to be called out. Her friend looked really pointedly at her and said, "No, we're okay. She's just being childish," to which I replied, "Yes, she is." I went back to where I'd been standing near the person and said, "I guess they don't let them out very often."

I was pretty upset the rest of my journey and started thinking that I should have been more forceful, so there would be mistaking my disapproval of their behaviour. So as I was getting off the train, I went over to the girl again and said, "You should be ashamed of yourself. You have been very offensive and very rude." She seemed surprised at that, too, and it made me feel a bit better. The best thing, though, was that walking along the platform, I heard two guys talking about it. One said, "I can't believe those kids." And the other said, "Yeah, I'm so glad that woman said something."

It's been about an hour now, but I'm still feeling quite emotional. I am so angry at those horrible kids for thinking that they have the right to make someone feel bad like that. I feel proud of myself for standing up and trying to stop them. I feel pleased that other people noticed my little show of heroics, but I'm disappointed that no one else said anything to the kids. Mostly, I hope that girl is ashamed and that she never forgets how it felt to be embarassed in public.

It's all been a bit much; I'm going to drink some juice and have a lie-down.

Advice

I saw this on the Free People blog, which I like because there is always lots of content. Most of the blogs I follow are done by women who have families and houses and if not jobs, then at least pretty busy Etsy shops, so they sometimes take time away from the computer to make dinner, do some crafts to post about, have family holidays, etc. Free People's blog is somebody's job, so there are always lots of fresh posts. Is this a slightly hypocritical stance from someone who aims to post about once a week and can't quite manage that? Hey - I'm not a professional.

Anyway, I noticed this list of "whimisical" instructions and realised that almost all of them also apply to doing urban design site appraisals. Interesting, huh?

And just 14 short months later...

...and I've got this far with the chair. Actually, there is a little bit of progress you can't see - I've also borrowed a staplegun from my friend Jane. The project is basically done. All I have to do now is use the original upholstery pieces as patterns for the new material, staple it on very neatly, figure out how to cover the back of the back panel, which doesn't have anything to staple to, find on the internet and order decorative tacks, then use said tacks to cover all the stapling.

I have a paper due on Thursday, but once that's done maybe I'll make a move on the chair. I really should, since I'd like to have it done in under two years and there are only 10 months left to go...

I also have some gardening projects lined up. At some point during the winter all my basil plants died. I was disgusted with them, and put them outside on the patio so I wouldn't have to look at them all brown and sticklike. This tough love approach actually worked with a clematis that's recently put out new leaves, but the basil just died, so I got a little new one at the grocery store yesterday, along with an assorted herb 6-pack and I need to repot them all. I've also got some begonia bulbs or seeds or pips or whatever they're called, and some tomato and parsnip seeds. Last year's tomato plants have pretty much all died, except one that has just recently produced two tomatoes (currently .5 in and .75 in diameter, respectively), which if they ever ripen will be the only fruit I got out of that crop. I'm going to try again this year and be very diligent about pinching shoots, fertilising, making sure the plants get enough sun, leaving them outside to be pollinated, and all that gardenerly stuff. I'm also going to use potting soil rather than dirt I dug up from the back yard, which I'm confident will make a big difference.

So far in the garden we've done some weeding and I planted some bulbs. I also decided to spruce up the three hanging planters on our garden wall since you can see them from the kitchen window and they were empty except for a dead geranium, some moss, and a handful of scraggly looking weeds. One of our challenges in gardening is that we have no idea what most of the plants are. Our neighbour Rocco, who is a retired gardner, seems to have only two categories of plants - "pretty flowers" or "rubbish". By his standards, most of the stuff in our garden is rubbish. So I took some things that I'm pretty sure are weeds but have pretty flowers on them at the moment and transplanted them into the planters. Pretty nice for weeds, huh?

Happy Easter

We've had a busy spring thus far, with lectures (but, alas, not assignments) ending in March and my parents visiting for 10 very busy days at the beginning of the month. After all that excitement, our Easter weekend has been very low-key. We celebrated by having hot cross buns this morning. They weren't one a penny (or even two a penny), but at 99p for four and half off the 2nd pack, they were still a pretty good deal.

That's a picture of our last one. Matthew is currently chowing down on it, toasted with butter (the bun, not Matthew).

Just because I wasn't writing doesn't mean I was doing stuff, so I plan to sprinkle catch-up photos throughout my upcoming posts. Today I've got a photo of our little Christmas tree. We spent Christmas at Matthew's brother's house this year. He and his partner live in London, only about a 25 minute bus ride away, but we made a 4 day mini-break of it. They are very good cooks and we ate and ate and ate. At one point on Boxing Day, I thought I was going to be physically ill from eating too much goose and cheese. I pulled through, though, and we had a wonderful time.

Since we were "going away" for Christmas, I didn't do much by way of decorating at home. I wasn't planning to have a tree at all, but eventually I just couldn't take it anymore and I got a little artificial tree at Argos for £7.49. It came with ornaments and lights and was insanely cheap, which I like, but the most intriguing thing is the weirdly 1980s theme: the tree is black and the ornaments are all day-glo neon colours. I don't understand it, but I really like it.

Of course, I match my gift-wrapping to the tree, even though we were taking them all to another house for exchanging. I found some very good paper - matte black at Habitat, dark purple with silver stars at Heals, and sequinned disco balls at John Lewis - and finally found a use for a silver jiffy envelope I've been saving for a couple of years. I was very pleased with the results.

The black tree was a lot of fun and got me thinking about some possible Christmas themes. I'm keeping my eyes open and if I can "source" the materials, it's looking like we might have a punk rock Christmas this year!